Words

"Actions speak louder than words."

We have all heard it before and usually post it in our brains.  But when the situation arises, we hold up on our high horse with the statement.

I myself have very much had my fill of words simply being air in the midst of robust actions.  Sometimes people don't know what they are saying and that's forgivable, they mean no harm.  But, there is that adage that says:

"People won't remember what you did. People won't remember what you said. But people will always remember the way you made them feel."

And then there is that saying (which I can't find on the internet despite seeing the saying today) about nt taking things that people say personally because it reflects their reality.

And then their are "The Four Agreements"

1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

Yet here we are being human and beating ourselves up by the judgement of others.  I am TOTALLY guilty of this organic original sin.

But words sting most of us so much.  I guess our care in such matters results from our pride in ourselves.  Secretly we know our self worth but when someone questions it with words or actions.  The most confident of humans would crumble because they care so much about their efforts.  Some will do ANYTHING to please the masses.  Still others will buck the system to uphold the individuality that makes them who they are.  The second option is the one I live by.  I am not a sheep, I would rather be a shepherd in my own right, not dictated by anyone.  This subjects me to such vulnerability which leads to the very words that threaten my psyche.  

So to that end I maintain my m.o.  I will keep being the sensitive, organic, original human being that I was created to be.  I hope to make "words" mean what they mean unless they connect with my natural self.

These are just words, but like most words, if they turn into actions they aren't words anymore.