When I was in Elementary School our grades were E (excellent), VG (very good), S (satisfactory), and NI (needs improvement). Nowadays in the same county the students are rated on a 3+, 3, 2, and 1 system.
When you are constantly assessing and explaining to parents why their child received the rating they did, it forces one to think of their life in those terms.
Recently I began to think of the rating of my life after losing a child.
I give myself a 3+ ALL the way!!!
I am still standing. I show up to work everyday with passion. I help others who walk the same path as I do. I am present with my child, my marriage, my family, and my friends. I weather the ups and downs of life as they come. I make my house a home. I educate myself in every element of its existence. I put one foot in front of the other no matter how I may stumble. I get out of bed every morning with varying weights on my shoulders. I cherish the little things, the many little things that turn into big things. I learn from my mistakes and my triumphs. I love and live better. I take every opportunity to better myself. I am empathetic to those who are struggling. I am trying to take better care of my mind, body, and spirit. I am more patient with those I come in contact with. I make mistakes, yet I try to forgive myself easier and know that mistakes are human as am I. I listen, not hear, but listen better. I feel no shame in sharing my son with the world. I feel more confident as a parent. I live, I truly live.
Isn't that beyond expectations, in other words a 3+?